Mission Impossible.....the thoughts we think

I presume you've all seen the movie. Tom Cruise AKA Ethan Hunt faces the task of a seeminlgy impossible mission but lives to tell the the tale. Even better, he gets to have 2 other impossible missions and he survives every time, be it with the necessary pain and scars to prove his daunting tasks!

What has this got to do with our non fiction lives you may wonder?

Sometimes we encounter such challenging situations that we feel it's impossible to overcome lifes' 'mission'. Recently a close friend of mine had one of these mission impossibles' end well for her.

She had called me for advice several months earlier on the matter.

Now I consider myself a pretty all round, intelligent woman so of course I had told her I would help. But there is one thing where advice is very difficult to give. It turns womens' lives upside down and inside out and that's......MEN! And as a single mom I wasn't sure I was the right person to turn to!

Women we are very resilient and inventive, we have to be, since most of the time our own families depend largely on us for the smooth running of their daily lives.

But when it comes to love, women are usually lost, naive and totally beyond reasoning.

My friend had met a man by sheer coincidence in a, for her, non comformative way, a few months ago. From the moment they met, they connected so intensely that they genuinely felt like they had known each other for years.

Few words were necessary for them to understand each other, their love for one another was deep and the sexual tension was almost unbearable (or so she said). You're probably thinking, good for them but so what?

The challenge was that she was moving out of state in the Spring. Her house had already been sold, her new home already furnished and awaiting her arrival and she had her heart set on her new surroundings, one of which she had dreamt about for a very long time. All her financial resources and ties were in her new home, not to mention that it would also be her sole source of income (she was opening a ranch resort) so not moving would have meant financial suicide.

But..he couldn't come with her as he had children he didn't want to leave behind nor would his ex wife let him take them with him. They were both torn apart by their love for each other and their love for what was going to separate them for good.

Which is were I came in. She wanted to know what I would do. My advice was very simple. If the two of them were truly meant to be together, the universe would find a way to make it happen as they desire. Even though to the both of them it was impossible to find a compromise or way for them to be together, I made them understand that they had the most powerful thing in their possession, namely their minds.

I told them to stop focussing on the thoughts of not being able to be together and begin thinking and acting like they were in a happy, committed lifelong relationship. This would, if they truly believed this, really owned those thoughts, stimulate the energy of the universe and it would give them a solution to this mission impossible.

In the beginning they felt like they were lieing to themselves, and I won't sugar coat the truth, it was very demanding and you really need to be persistant, even when the chips are down.

As days and weeks went by, and the time for her to move got closer, there still seemed no answer to their challenge. They felt as if nothing had changed, but it had, only they hadn't realized it.

Due to the thoughts they had both shared and the feelings (very important!) of happiness and trust that all would turn out in their best interests, their time together had been a joyful, loving one.

And it doesn't end there. Six days before her departure, her boyfriends ex wife was offered a job overseas and didn't want to take the children with her. She not only gave him permission to take his children with him, she gave him full legal custody.
(footnote: the children wanted to move with their father)


Motto of the story: There is no such thing as a Mission Impossible, if you truly desire a certain outcome, from the depths of your heart, the universe will make it happen for you. You have a choice, to believe or not to believe, that is the question!