Thursday, May 22, 2008

The Truth Will Set You Free !

A wonderful friend of mine and I were talking about ways to really get up close and personal with....oneself.

She suggested the following technique and believe me, it works, EVERY time. It can be confrontational but you do receive the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I'm dedicating this weeks blog to Paula Wood, and if you would like to contact her, just send me an email and I'll send it straight through to her.

I thought I would share a little tool that I use. It's one that I often share with I know that we all have our own answers...and rather than just think about the things that are going on inside of us that aren't working...this is action based and I find that it is way more it requires the person to stop and focus and really take action, rather than just think about it. Make sense?

Mirror work. That's what I call it. It's not an easy process, in fact, I resist doing it a lot of the time, because I know that I will come face to face with 'me'.'s very powerful.

What you do is go sit in front of a mirror...and get as close as you comfortably can. ( I sit in my bathroom sink). And then just look into your eyes...and don't stray.

And then just start talking to yourself. Start off with the things you don't like about yourself, or start saying the things that you pick apart about yourself or just whatever. And just start talking. Get angry or whatever shows up. Just let everything out...all of the things you use to beat yourself up or that you use to reaffirm your doubts. And just let things come out naturally.

Eventually the real you will surface and it will shift. Your 'you' will start talking to you look into your 'you' eyes. You will then start seeing the beauty, the power, the divinity that is you and when you are all won't be able to deny yourself anymore. (there's usually a lot of tears involved, as this process is really quite cleansing and eye opening).

By the time you get off that counter or out of that can't help but see yourself as the most amazingly beautiful creation and you will smile at yourself, the same way you smile at a child or anything else that touches your heart with joy. You will be your own joy!

This can take a little bit of time or a lot of time...I know I've spent a couple of hours in front of the mirror before...depending on just how much I was resisting myself. It is very powerful and cleansing.

Thanks to Paula we shall all be sitting in our bathroom sinks staring at ourselves and FINALLY getting somewhere!


Friday, May 16, 2008

It's My Party and I'm having fun !

By the time people turn forty they will most likely have married or settled down, had kids, about 50% will have gotten divorced and either be in a rut concerning their work or heading for a burnout. Few are actually happy, love their lives and are capable to understand and appreciate that life is wonderful, full of opportunities and wonders.

I like to think that I belong in the last category. Sure, I have had challenges and less positive situations occur in my life but I have also always tried to enjoy it and keep an open mind to possibilities, learning something new each and every day.

I turn forty at the end of the month and I'm really looking forward to it. Not because it's an ideal excuse to throw a party, nor because of the gifts I may receive, but simply because I get to celebrate the fact that I probably have another forty years ahead of me in which I can enjoy my life, watch my kids grow up, love, work and play.

Isn't that something great to look forward to?

I don't dwell on the past, I also have learned not to live in far ahead future, but to take pleasure in the moment of now. Often we seem to forget that only now exists, that we can choose to feel good right now, no matter what may be going on in our lives. We forget to be grateful for what we have, and instead worry or are frustrated about what we haven't got. That doesn't mean I don't make any plans, what it does mean that if along the journey those plans change, I embrace those changes, not curse them.

Don't get me wrong, it's simple but not always easy and I too sometimes find it hard to see something good in a less than positive situation. But you know what? If I don't, the only person I'm hurting is me.....and I love myself too much to purposely hurt me.

That may sound egotistical, but think of it this way. What goes around comes around, and if you have no love to give, then you cannot receive it either. And you can only have love to give, if you genuinely care and love yourself. Treat yourself exactly how you would want others to treat you, understand that you deserve to be happy, respected and enjoy your life.

You do this and you'll be attracting that what you are giving out to the universe. The law of attraction NEVER fails, Like attracts Like.....and therefore you get what you give.

I am passionate about music, it's part of my life, and any song has a huge effect on the way that I feel. Have you ever wondered why most people, when they are sad, after a break up for example, choose to play love songs? How masochistic is that? It only makes them feel worse! When I do feel a little sad, I play fun, happy music. This immediately elevates my sadness and gives me a happier feeling.

The music video below is my all time favorite. I hope you'll enjoy it just as much as I do, and go ahead....sing and dance along.....who cares if someone is watching!


Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Tears of Joy....Laugh your way to a better...?

I love this weather! The sun is shining here every day, the thermometer shows upto 22°C (72.6°F) and it just puts me in a very good mood, even better than what I usually am! This makes life easier on everyone, and my kids love a mom who is out and about, although they did have to help in the yard with mowing the lawn and they weren't too thrilled with that.

But that's not what my title is about.

I don't know if you have heard of Mark Gungor. I hadn't, until I got sick last week and a dear friend sent me a video to help me get better faster. If you didn't know this yet, let me elaborate a little about why he sent it to me.

Mark Gungor is a pastor, marriage councelor and family speaker. He gives weekend seminars titled "Laugh your a better marriage". Now, at first I didn't think this was for me because...well...I'm not married. But, as my friend knows me quite well and wouldn't send me something irrelevant, I watched the video anyway.

I'm sure glad I did because I don't think I've ever heard anyone tell it like it is about our daily lives and at the same time be so funny! The tale of two brains video is a short exerpt of Mark Gungor's dvd, and I must say.....dead on with EVERYTHING he says about men and women and how they react.

Now, laughter is a fantastic way to get rid of feeling bad, whether its' physical like the flu, or emotional like after a break up.

It's not often I laugh so much that tears come into my eyes but this was so extremely funny and true that I couldn't help myself. So, without further ado, here is the video so you can see what I'm talking about......Enjoy!