The Truth Will Set You Free !

A wonderful friend of mine and I were talking about ways to really get up close and personal with....oneself.

She suggested the following technique and believe me, it works, EVERY time. It can be confrontational but you do receive the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I'm dedicating this weeks blog to Paula Wood, and if you would like to contact her, just send me an email and I'll send it straight through to her.

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I thought I would share a little tool that I use. It's one that I often share with others...as I know that we all have our own answers...and rather than just think about the things that are going on inside of us that aren't working...this is action based and I find that it is way more effective...as it requires the person to stop and focus and really take action, rather than just think about it. Make sense?

Mirror work. That's what I call it. It's not an easy process, in fact, I resist doing it a lot of the time, because I know that I will come face to face with 'me'. BUT...it's very powerful.

What you do is go sit in front of a mirror...and get as close as you comfortably can. ( I sit in my bathroom sink). And then just look into your eyes...and don't stray.

And then just start talking to yourself. Start off with the things you don't like about yourself, or start saying the things that you pick apart about yourself or just whatever. And just start talking. Get angry or whatever shows up. Just let everything out...all of the things you use to beat yourself up or that you use to reaffirm your doubts. And just let things come out naturally.

Eventually the real you will surface and it will shift. Your 'you' will start talking to you...as you look into your 'you' eyes. You will then start seeing the beauty, the power, the divinity that is you and when you are all done...you won't be able to deny yourself anymore. (there's usually a lot of tears involved, as this process is really quite cleansing and eye opening).

By the time you get off that counter or out of that chair...you can't help but see yourself as the most amazingly beautiful creation and you will smile at yourself, the same way you smile at a child or anything else that touches your heart with joy. You will be your own joy!

This can take a little bit of time or a lot of time...I know I've spent a couple of hours in front of the mirror before...depending on just how much I was resisting myself. It is very powerful and cleansing.
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Thanks to Paula we shall all be sitting in our bathroom sinks staring at ourselves and FINALLY getting somewhere!

Hugs

It's My Party and I'm having fun !

By the time people turn forty they will most likely have married or settled down, had kids, about 50% will have gotten divorced and either be in a rut concerning their work or heading for a burnout. Few are actually happy, love their lives and are capable to understand and appreciate that life is wonderful, full of opportunities and wonders.

I like to think that I belong in the last category. Sure, I have had challenges and less positive situations occur in my life but I have also always tried to enjoy it and keep an open mind to possibilities, learning something new each and every day.

I turn forty at the end of the month and I'm really looking forward to it. Not because it's an ideal excuse to throw a party, nor because of the gifts I may receive, but simply because I get to celebrate the fact that I probably have another forty years ahead of me in which I can enjoy my life, watch my kids grow up, love, work and play.

Isn't that something great to look forward to?

I don't dwell on the past, I also have learned not to live in far ahead future, but to take pleasure in the moment of now. Often we seem to forget that only now exists, that we can choose to feel good right now, no matter what may be going on in our lives. We forget to be grateful for what we have, and instead worry or are frustrated about what we haven't got. That doesn't mean I don't make any plans, what it does mean that if along the journey those plans change, I embrace those changes, not curse them.

Don't get me wrong, it's simple but not always easy and I too sometimes find it hard to see something good in a less than positive situation. But you know what? If I don't, the only person I'm hurting is me.....and I love myself too much to purposely hurt me.

That may sound egotistical, but think of it this way. What goes around comes around, and if you have no love to give, then you cannot receive it either. And you can only have love to give, if you genuinely care and love yourself. Treat yourself exactly how you would want others to treat you, understand that you deserve to be happy, respected and enjoy your life.

You do this and you'll be attracting that what you are giving out to the universe. The law of attraction NEVER fails, Like attracts Like.....and therefore you get what you give.

I am passionate about music, it's part of my life, and any song has a huge effect on the way that I feel. Have you ever wondered why most people, when they are sad, after a break up for example, choose to play love songs? How masochistic is that? It only makes them feel worse! When I do feel a little sad, I play fun, happy music. This immediately elevates my sadness and gives me a happier feeling.

The music video below is my all time favorite. I hope you'll enjoy it just as much as I do, and go ahead....sing and dance along.....who cares if someone is watching!

Enjoy!

Tears of Joy....Laugh your way to a better...?

I love this weather! The sun is shining here every day, the thermometer shows upto 22°C (72.6°F) and it just puts me in a very good mood, even better than what I usually am! This makes life easier on everyone, and my kids love a mom who is out and about, although they did have to help in the yard with mowing the lawn and they weren't too thrilled with that.

But that's not what my title is about.

I don't know if you have heard of Mark Gungor. I hadn't, until I got sick last week and a dear friend sent me a video to help me get better faster. If you didn't know this yet, let me elaborate a little about why he sent it to me.

Mark Gungor is a pastor, marriage councelor and family speaker. He gives weekend seminars titled "Laugh your way....to a better marriage". Now, at first I didn't think this was for me because...well...I'm not married. But, as my friend knows me quite well and wouldn't send me something irrelevant, I watched the video anyway.

I'm sure glad I did because I don't think I've ever heard anyone tell it like it is about our daily lives and at the same time be so funny! The tale of two brains video is a short exerpt of Mark Gungor's dvd, and I must say.....dead on with EVERYTHING he says about men and women and how they react.

Now, laughter is a fantastic way to get rid of feeling bad, whether its' physical like the flu, or emotional like after a break up.

It's not often I laugh so much that tears come into my eyes but this was so extremely funny and true that I couldn't help myself. So, without further ado, here is the video so you can see what I'm talking about......Enjoy!

Island of Lost Souls....The Awakening

It is said that when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.....and that definitely holds true for me. I consider myself to be a spiritual person, not religious. One that is open to each and every thought and idea, does not condemn anyone,who believes there is good in all and who attracts certain people, resources and situations into her life at the right time in order for me to become aware of what it is I am to 'remember' in my soul.

For the May issue of Eden&Elle magazine, I had an interview planned with a woman who is a holistic sexuality practioner in the United States, but somehow energy drove me in a different direction and through a mutual acquaintance, I had the pleasure of personally meeting Kika Da Silva a couple of weeks ago.

Women are highly sensitive, intuitive creatures, generally more so than men yet sometimes almost frail due to lifes' challenges and lost loves. Contrary to what many men think, most women do not talk about their past, less positive experiences easily, preferring to hide them in the far corners of their mind, and forget them so the pain is less visible to themselves and others.

From the moment I met Kika D., as she is widely known, the emotional energy that radiated from her was quite irresistable, and I wanted to know more about the woman behind this energy. I asked her if she would be interested in posing for me for Eden&Elle magazine and have time to do an interview at short notice....she agreed with a resplendent smile on her face.

Four days later Kika D. was in front of my camera and microphone! Needless to say, both went extremely well.

Kika D. is an established photographer, author and producer of videoclips and short movies and has recently finished her latest project. It is a forty minute short film called 'Island of Lost Souls' and is based on her book Fé Noches Blancas as well as an emotionally heavy experience that Kika D. went through.

I was offered the opportunity to watch the movie to understand more fully what Kika D. meant when she describes it as an 'inner road' movie. During the entire film, I just sat there, my eyes glued to the screen, spellbound by the sheer cutting words, images and music that I was being exposed to.

Every emotion I had ever felt, whether it be painful or happy washed over me as the movie continued, the raw honesty swishing through my veins and leaving my heart beating with great vigor. It was truly an awakening to certain old school thinking and it captures the essence of life so very intensely.

I literally had to catch my breath when it was finished, yet was left with a hunger for more. Kika D. had already explained to me that she intends to make a few epilogues to the prologue of the movie, and for me I can hardly wait to see what she will create next.

If you would like to know more, please visit www.kikadasilva.com and of course, I urge you not to miss the May issue of Eden&Elle magazine in which Kika D. is featured, both visually and verbally.

Enjoy!
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Mission Impossible.....the thoughts we think

I presume you've all seen the movie. Tom Cruise AKA Ethan Hunt faces the task of a seeminlgy impossible mission but lives to tell the the tale. Even better, he gets to have 2 other impossible missions and he survives every time, be it with the necessary pain and scars to prove his daunting tasks!

What has this got to do with our non fiction lives you may wonder?

Sometimes we encounter such challenging situations that we feel it's impossible to overcome lifes' 'mission'. Recently a close friend of mine had one of these mission impossibles' end well for her.

She had called me for advice several months earlier on the matter.

Now I consider myself a pretty all round, intelligent woman so of course I had told her I would help. But there is one thing where advice is very difficult to give. It turns womens' lives upside down and inside out and that's......MEN! And as a single mom I wasn't sure I was the right person to turn to!

Women we are very resilient and inventive, we have to be, since most of the time our own families depend largely on us for the smooth running of their daily lives.

But when it comes to love, women are usually lost, naive and totally beyond reasoning.

My friend had met a man by sheer coincidence in a, for her, non comformative way, a few months ago. From the moment they met, they connected so intensely that they genuinely felt like they had known each other for years.

Few words were necessary for them to understand each other, their love for one another was deep and the sexual tension was almost unbearable (or so she said). You're probably thinking, good for them but so what?

The challenge was that she was moving out of state in the Spring. Her house had already been sold, her new home already furnished and awaiting her arrival and she had her heart set on her new surroundings, one of which she had dreamt about for a very long time. All her financial resources and ties were in her new home, not to mention that it would also be her sole source of income (she was opening a ranch resort) so not moving would have meant financial suicide.

But..he couldn't come with her as he had children he didn't want to leave behind nor would his ex wife let him take them with him. They were both torn apart by their love for each other and their love for what was going to separate them for good.

Which is were I came in. She wanted to know what I would do. My advice was very simple. If the two of them were truly meant to be together, the universe would find a way to make it happen as they desire. Even though to the both of them it was impossible to find a compromise or way for them to be together, I made them understand that they had the most powerful thing in their possession, namely their minds.

I told them to stop focussing on the thoughts of not being able to be together and begin thinking and acting like they were in a happy, committed lifelong relationship. This would, if they truly believed this, really owned those thoughts, stimulate the energy of the universe and it would give them a solution to this mission impossible.

In the beginning they felt like they were lieing to themselves, and I won't sugar coat the truth, it was very demanding and you really need to be persistant, even when the chips are down.

As days and weeks went by, and the time for her to move got closer, there still seemed no answer to their challenge. They felt as if nothing had changed, but it had, only they hadn't realized it.

Due to the thoughts they had both shared and the feelings (very important!) of happiness and trust that all would turn out in their best interests, their time together had been a joyful, loving one.

And it doesn't end there. Six days before her departure, her boyfriends ex wife was offered a job overseas and didn't want to take the children with her. She not only gave him permission to take his children with him, she gave him full legal custody.
(footnote: the children wanted to move with their father)


Motto of the story: There is no such thing as a Mission Impossible, if you truly desire a certain outcome, from the depths of your heart, the universe will make it happen for you. You have a choice, to believe or not to believe, that is the question!

a Jewel for Men AND Women!

When it comes to figuring out why women think, act and say the things they do, many men have given up or have lost their hair trying to find out. It's not that women are complicated human beings, it's that men are......well, sadly equipped to handle the type of intricacy that women are designed with.

This is especially so when it comes to sex.

Although most men know or at least have heard of the fact that women are "thinking" creatures and men are "doing" animals, it hasn't registered with them so far as to actually change their 'tactics' when approaching a women they are interested in. Nor have they been very successful in being able to understand their long time partners or spouses.

But the fault doesn't just lie with men. Women themselves are ingenious at making their lives and everything around them much more complicated than it really should be.

We pride ourselves on being able to multitask, having 'female' intuition (which we don't seem to use very often), being independent and the only sex than can bare children, so why make our lives so ambivalent?

If you have an answer, please.......let me know!

But in the mean time, for men and women who want the opposite sex to know how to get to know them, to be able to seduce them in the way they desire to be seduced, Jewel Feathers has written a book.

In Jewels' book, "How to make HER come!.....What Sex Type Is She?" she explains that there are three types of women when it comes to sexual pleasure. Each type is explained in detail, from what she wears, how she walks and talks to finding out what a certain type enjoys the most between the sheets (or anywhere else for that matter!)

This book isn't only aimed at men, though it is an extremely valuable tool for each and every one of them, be it young, old, inexperienced or 'advanced'. It's also for women, as after having read this book they will know exactly what kind of signals they are sending out to men, good and bad, and can adjust them if they feel the need to do so accordingly.

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What color is your hair.........down there ?

As you may remember I had my first brazilian wax in January of this year. Was it painful? You betcha! Did I do it again? Yep, but in this case three was not a charm.

Here(in Belgium) I don't think they understand the true nature of what a brazilian wax is. Both times not all the hair 'down there' was removed.

The first time I was told it was due to the fact it was my first waxing and therefore they were being very careful. The beautician said they would remove the hairs that had been left behind next time around. It didn't make much sense to me but as my skin felt like it was on fire, I presumed she knew what she was talking about.

The second time the same thing occurred and I asked the beautician if she could remove all the hair as that was what I was paying for. But she told me that it was normal that some hairs were always left behind. I didn't really believe her and concluded that this type of waxing just wasn't made for my skin or what I had thought it would be.

Only after talking to a friend of mine, who also happens to be a beautician, did I learn that it wasn't me,nor my rather delicate skin, that was at fault but the beauty salon itself.

Normally ALL the hairs have to be removed when one is waxed, and it doesn't matter whether its a brazilian wax or just a plain leg wax. The result has to be a hairless, smooth, non irritated skin.

Since there isn't another salon in this Province that even does brazilian waxing, I gave up on the idea.

And now I'm so glad I did !

Because in my search of more information about waxing, I stumbled upon a site that offers hair color dye........for the hair down there!

Enthused by what I read, I contacted the public relations agency of this company and asked if I could interview the woman behind this wonderful idea. Within a couple of weeks I was able to schedule an interview and talk to Nancy Jarecki, CEO and innovator of bettybeauty inc. (www.bettybeauty.com)

Nancy is a wonderful, kind hearted, vivacious woman and she talked open heartedly about her life, career and where she got the idea of color dye for the hair down there.

In the April issue of Eden and Elle Magazine you will be able to read all about Nancy Jarecki, the bettybeauty inc. products and even about her marriage to Andrew Jarecki, Moviefone cofounder and Hollywood director of movies like Capturing the Friedmans.

Eden and Elle Magazine is available from 1st April. Visit www.edenandelle.com for your very own FREE issue.